...help us #Find Sarah Find Jacob
Just like everything I have done since September 7th (when Jacob disappeared) and September 8th (when Sarah disappeared)—“if it helps bring Sarah and Jacob home – I will do it.” I am Lindsey Hoggle—Catherine’s mother, Sarah and Jacob’s grandmother. While pouring a cup of coffee this morning, my eyes happened to land on a small sign in my kitchen—and the message I need to share. It is a small plaque from a friend entitled “At the end of the day only kindness matters”.
It caught my eye because it was the subject of a random discussion a few weeks back. My 26 year-old son and a previous school mate of Catherine’s and I were standing in my kitchen talking. I had laid the plaque on the kitchen counter as it needed glued back together. Catherine and the babies (as I call them) had been at my house over Labor Day weekend (Sept 1, 2014) and Sarah picked up the plaque. When putting it back, it landed hard and broke. Catherine was a bit upset; I told her “it’s material and can be replaced. I will just glue it back.”
What happened as my son, Catherine's friend and I stood in my kitchen didn’t impress me until this morning. Our “new normal” consists of developing searches, flyers and building “missing” awareness for my two missing grandchildren-Sarah (age 4) and Jacob (age 2). There are usually staples, strapping tape, duct tape and an assortment of other “campaign” materials in my kitchen. While we talked, my son picked up the duct tape, held the two pieces together, taped the back of the plaque with the duct tape and put it back on the shelf where it had been. While you could still see the crack, it was at least in one piece, rather than two; one less item on my “to do” list. We laughed at the simple fix pulled off effortlessly vs. my ongoing, procrastinating best intention of “going-to-glue-it-back-together”.
If only we tackled life’s problems in the same fashion – allowing the blemishes to show, patching wounds with duct tape so they do not lay open, and holding off judgment based upon appearance. Practicing kindness these days has a new meaning. These past 5 months have been full of frustration, anxiety, fear, anger, regret, tears, heartbreak.
What kindness is needed? To listen –that we need details pulled together to find Sarah and Jacob. Catherine had a plan (pieced together after this situation occurred) to take the children and “disappear”- to escape complex psychiatric treatment. Two loving children with a mentally ill mother still deserve us to search for someone that may have them.
~Lindsey Hoggle (Grandmother to Sarah and Jacob)